Dancing with Dementia

Goodbye-ee, goodbye-ee, wipe a tear baby dear from your eye-ee.
Though it’s hard to part I know…

Almost 6 years ago I started my job as one of the Dementia Support Workers with Hazel and her team in North Somerset.

As I reflect on the last few years, I realise its time to say a big thanks to you all. My role is to support you and pass on knowledge. But undoubtedly, it is I that has learnt the most. We have laughed loads, cried loads and lived to fight another day. Through your struggles to live with dementia or care for someone with dementia you have taught me the qualities of patience, understanding and empathy.

You have accepted my timekeeping, diary management and navigating disasters as I found my way to your homes. You have taught me to organise quizzes, tea parties and fundraising events. I have learnt how to make cards to raise funds. I think I even impressed you once with my baking and trifle making abilities!

Who would have known – when I was undertaking so much training to support you – that in the end it would be you who would teach me so many more important and valuable lessons?

It has been a privilege to get to know you, to work with you and to share your lives, the good times and the hard times. There is a time for everything, and my time to leave you has come. I have changed during the last six years. You have taught me so much and I have grown. I am a better person. It’s inadequate, but I just want to say thanks to each of you.

I wish you all the best as you continue with your struggles. And don’t forget, as we say in the singing group:

Take care of each other and don’t cry-ee, don’t sigh-ee,
there’s a silver lining in the sky-ee. 
Bonsoir, old thing, cheer-i-o, chin, chin. 
Nah-poo, toodle-oo, Goodbye-ee.

Miriam

For a reason I just can’t explain, this song, which is the sound track to the film Miss Potter and sung here by Katie Melua, makes me think about people with dementia, their carers and myself learning to live with what each passing day brings us.

I think life is a bit like a dance. The steps you learn are like lessons wound into the melody of the music. The music is the love that surrounds you. The beat is the passion that fills you and the lyrics are the notes that bring it all together. The end is the joy of having danced with you all.

Thank you for the beautiful flowers.
Leave me a message?

Daffodils.Live simply
Live simply Love generously Care deeply Speak kindly Leave the rest to God.

Hello Monday

Hello week seven of 2013

This week I will see:
my last week at work
my last singing group
my last lunch clubs Tuesday & Thursday
my ‘exit (from work) meeting’
and my last Memory Cafe

Hello to Valentines day
Hello to watching The Bridges of Maddison County again. I am usually on my own for Valentines evening and love to watch this film with a box of chocs and a box of tissues

Hello to a weekend away

Hello quietly to my birthday as it is a bit scary but it’s only for a day then
a great big Hello to a new place in my life
the first day of retirement
never has my life been so exciting and sad and happy all at the same time…

Orange Slime Flux

I think there is something kind of lovely in it’s creepiness but it is orange and I am linking to Mandarin Orange Monday

LorikArt

Hello Monday is a meme by Lisa Leonard

Photo Art Friday

Bonnie at Pixel Dust Photo Art gave us a great challenge this week.

Make a piece of digital art using a new texture she gave us, one other of her textures and one or more of our own pictures.
Wave a bit of digital magic over them until you feel happy with what you see. For me it was like I had been let loose in a flower shop. “One of everything please”

Gerbra
Gerbra
Postcards from Brighton
Postcards from Brighton
Honeysuckle
Honeysuckle
Me
M

The gallery is open for browsing right here

Story Telling Sunday ~ February

…On Wednesday

Pictures of Precious ~ The Cat in the Drawer
4th February 2013

PtP February

The Cat in the Drawer hangs on the wall in my bedroom.
It has been hanging there since the summer of 1988, June of that year actually. I could tell you the date but you would have to give me a moment to make quite sure.
The Cat in the Drawer is not something that I would have chosen for my self. Paul bought it for me. He saw it in a little boutique kind of shop in Oxford. He had gone out for a walk while I was sleeping, recovering in the clinic.
He was so pleased with me, with us, having got this far. Pleased in the way you feel relief, not jumping up and down pleased.
He will have been smiling to himself and worrying about me at the same time. What he had witnessed me go through was not easy for him.
He said he saw the little black and white cat first and it reminded him of our little cat. She was staying in the cattery because we were away for a few days.
Then he saw that the cat was sitting in a drawer and he thought of me carrying enough eggs in my body so that sufficient could be recovered to enable the embryologists to fertilise them for us.
That is what had happened this beautiful June day: my eggs had been recovered.
Paul thought the drawer was holding the cat, rather like me holding my precious eggs.
It was another step along the way in our IVF treatment.
When I look at The Cat in the Drawer I have so many memories of our love and hopes and dreams and that time in our lives.
When I dust The Cat in the Drawer I always smile because I remember and because it was so long ago.
A life time really.
Ben’s life time in fact.

The Cat in the Drawer, the story of My Precious for February was brought to you with thanks to Sian, she of the wonderful ideas at High in the Sky.

I am looking forward to reading all your stories here, tonight when I get in from work.